I tried to diffuse the situation by locking my door and locking back door.
I do not like confrontation. I do not like anger and aggression but I also know I have a very low tolerance to being shouted at or my door being knocked loudly
it triggers flashbacks from my past and I just cant deal with it.
but my neighbour wouldn't stop so eventually I opened the door and she hit me with verbal abuse and all hell broke loose.
we have a on going feud about my cats going in her garden which has been going on for the 2 months since they moved in but it has never been aggressive.
the day before yesterday I was in my garden trying to get my cat to get out of their garden as he was sat on the neighbours blanket which was on the ground.
I hear the neighbours back door unlock and my cat ran as fast as possible back into his own garden.
they scare my cats so much that he knows to run asap.
so my cat had already left her garden even before her door opened.
anyway she started to hiss, clap and picked up some stones and chucked them at my cat which was in my garden so u said to her dont do that to my cat.
she point blank ignored me and carried on so u sat there with my daughter just saying how rude she was and then she began to spit and mutter some words in a different language.
anyway later on my dad tried to knock on their door to explain that the cats have been using that garden for years. and that it's ok for them to shoo them out if they refuse to move
but that they cant do anything to my cats once they have left their garden.
rightly so she said she didn't want the cats on her babies things that a good point but seriously how am I meant to explain that to my cat.
he also tried to explain that cats dont just move when u call them. so unless I climb over the fence each time I notice him in there what am I supposed to do.
she slammed the door in my dad's face.
anyway yesterday evening my two daughters and their friend were playing with water balloons. they said it was a accident but the neighbours didn't think so and accused the girls of wetting the baby sswing in the back garden.
also a water balloon hit a window at the front of the house.
they went crying to their neighbour right after banging off my door and shouting.
the other neighbour came to try and diffuse and said it didnt look like a accident.
I tried to explain that all three of these children are disabled.
she cut in before I finished to say that they are not that disabled that they dont know right from wrong.
what I was trying to explain if she had listened is that they are sometimes oblivious to what is going on around them. they also have poor co ordination so it really could have been a accident and even if it
wasnt u dont get the best out of me banging my door like that. why not just knock and say the kids have been throwing balloons at my house. why all the aggression.
anyway I got the kids to apologise regardless but as they were trying to throw woman was there shouting at them and calling them liars.
so in the end I thought fck this and got everyone inside.
I believe that it was a accident. the neighbours have been complaining about the cats for 2 months. the girls play with water balloons every weekend and this has never happened before.
this triggered off a huge anxiety attack. I've not slept all night. just waiting for them to kick my door off.
I'm worried they are going to kill my cats
and I dont feel like I can leave my house as all the other people on the street were out listening to our arguement.
I'm trying to stop myself from googling how to secretly annoy the neighbours as I want to be the bigger person and just be civil. but I feel angry as well as upset and not safe.
but I dont know how to. theres a big language barrier also. I think the nan only speaks a few words of English but the daughter can speak quite a bit but is extremely rude.
does anyone have any suggestions pls x