im wondering if she maybe a empath like me or one of the types of starseed children, i first noticed something a little different about her when she was about 3 months old.
she would scream and scream if you laid her down in the day time, and wouldnt stop until you propped her up, she always liked to be able to see all around her and just used to sit and watch people or look up at the ceiling.
as she got older she preffered to play alone rather than with other children, her favourite toys were stones, pebbles, and she loved insects and animals and as she got older she began to love crystals and talked about fairies and people living in her bedroom wall.
jj didnt talk until she was nearly 4 years old, i think she could talk, she just chose not too, she liked to observe and i had to teach her baby sign language.
she has always had anxiety, always struggled with making friends, hates loud noises, hates crowds and often tells me she hates people.
at the age of 13 she was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder.
now my problem is her anxiety at school and home is through the room, as soon as she is anxious she becomes mute and no one can get through to her, not even me, she is struggling with the work load at her mainstream school , running off to hide in the toilets most lessons, and at home she just wants tobe left alone, any little command or instruction leads to hours of meltdowns.
she has been self harming for a while, started because of the stress at school, bt just lately if i tell her off at home or she feels overwhlmed due to her many sensory issues she self harms at home also. but it is at school she is struggling the most because they do not understand autism and all of the teachers are not on the same page, i mean she is still getting detentions for being mute or for not giving teachers eye contact when asked too or too many teachers talking to her at once or too much input.
one of jj sensory issues is she cannot take too much verbal at once and you have to speak slowly in simple terms or she becomes overwhelmed.
I do not know what to do, as her mum i am stuck between telling her off and setting boundries as any parent should or to just leave her alone so that she is happy and not wanting to self harm.
its a horrible feeling and situation, and is only gonna get worse with her gcse exams coming up.
she is going to be assessed for a ehcp plan soon, if she gets the go ahead with that then it will enable her to have special needs help in education until she is 25, also opens up the option for a special needs school, which to be honest i feel if she was diagnosed earlier she never would have been sent to a mainstream.
does anyone have any advice, normal or spiritual of how i can get her to feel less anxious , happier, communicate better, i dunno, i just want her to be happy and not so stressed x